- know they’re problematic
- know why they’re problematic
- don’t dismiss people’s feelings/dissatisfaction with them
- don’t silence people when they’re talking about the problems in your media, because your enjoyment is not more important than that discussion.
me when i’m driving and i pass a car: jesus fucking christ finALLY the speed limit on this road is forty-goddamn-five wake the fuck up and drive you are a hazard why hasn’t your license revoked i s2g
me when i’m driving and a car passes me: whoa there friend we are all merely travelers on the road of life plz take a deep breath it’s not a race and you’re not on fire it does not matter how slow you go as long as you do not stop
other examples of healthy polyamory:
- joe has four girlfriends and they DO know and are happy
- bob and jerry see other people but have agreed not to discuss specifics
- rhonda and amy see other people and talk about EVERYTHING
- teresa dates other people, sam doesn’t
- quinn identifies as poly but isn’t seeing anyone right now
- people dating more than one person with everyone’s consent
- as long as everyone’s needs are heard and respected
- that’s pretty much it
- easy

“Then he assigned an official to her case, and said to him, ‘give back everything that belonged to her, including all the income from her land from the day she left the country until now.’”
THIS DOESN’T EXPLAIN ANYTHING
“ 大言壮語 ダイゲンソウゴ big talk; boasting; bragging —vi. talk big; boast; brag “
Well, that’s what I get for having the closest book be a dictionary.
sesquipus and I happen to have a lousy Stats textbook kicking around (probably as a writing surface or a table or something).
"Time spent on the WWW can take take only nonnegative values.”By WWW, they of course mean (quoting the previous page): “World Wide Web”
Just to be clear, this thing was published in 2009. We are agog.
PS: haha, our sex life is incomprehensible out of context, just like that sentence!
“Time spent on the WWW” is a phrase so out of touch, I can only marvel at it.
“For crying out loud!…We were supposed to turn south after that last mountain range!”
(It’s a Far Side book.)
Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince.
“He had stopped coming to meals at the staff table, an ominous sign, and on the few occasions when they had passed him in the corridors or out in the grounds, he had mysteriously failed to notice them or hear their greetings.”
I want sempai to notice me but he won’t?
“Being the artist’s model was sweet, beating the tar out of thieves was great fun, but she would under no circumstances come out of the Cornucopia box or be fired out of a cannon.”
What can I say? I have broad tastes, but strongly defined boundaries. 😉
“To view all the educational videos marked in this book, just type the url listed below or scan the QR code to the right.”
((Momma always said I’d make a good teacher.))
“What do we do?” asked Mr. Pendansky.
…oh god.
Most Whites find it easy to ignore residential segregation. I experienced a good example of this inattention when I told a lunch-table’s worth of White colleagues at the Center for Advanced Studies in the Behavioral Sciences about the linguist John Baugh’s project on “linguistic profiling” (Baugh 2003). Baugh has developed a matched-guise test in which a single speaker uses a “White professional,” a “Latino,” or a “Black” voice in making telephone inquiries about the availability of advertised rentals in the San Francisco Bay area. The “White professional” voice is much more likely to yield an invitation to make an appointment to look at the property, while the other accents are more likely to result in a response that the rental is no longer available. My colleagues, all sophisticated scholars, were genuinely surprised at this result; several mentioned that they had thought that this sort of discrimination had long since disappeared.
Jane H. Hill, The Everyday Language of White Racism (via wretchedoftheearth)
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This is like when me and my white soon-to-be husband were looking for places. I’d call up and they’d say, “Come on down! Get an application!”. Because I don’t “sound” black.
Then I’d walk in 2 minutes later and they’d be all, “Oh. Sorry, we just rented it.”
Then I’d send him in and he’d get an application.
The best part? Walking back in while he was completing the application. “Oh, they gave you an application? But they told me it was just rented. ODD. THAT. I’m going to report them so let’s just skip this place, m’kay?” The looks on their faces and the pathetic apologies were just too much fun.
Used to deal with the same thing with road trips. Hotels would tell me that there were no vacancies, but my white roommate would go in and get us a room, usually cheaper than advertised.
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I do similar stuff at restauants and other places of business with my white bf. At least it makes it easier to know where not to go!
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Reblogging again for the commentary
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But we’re just supposed to *trust* and think everything is an *isolated* incident.
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Not so sophisticated scholars, were they? I mean this really, really shouldn’t be all that surprising.
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It shouldn’t be surprising, but I guarantee that most white people find it unbelievable
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I’m going to reblog this every time I see it on my dash. My parents pointed out how this phenomenon worked when we were moving to PA (they’d get steered to crummier neighborhoods and have to insist on being shown others). Housing discrimination is still pretty widespread and the gatekeepers? Tend to either intentionally or due to unchecked bias reinforce the status quo.
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It always floors me the things people are surprised at. Meanwhile, every person of color is sitting here like, “Oh. Must be another day that ends in Y, and in other news, water is wet.” Like, really, people are surprised by this, and whenever they show surprise at learning stuff that we go through, I have to poker face, lest I end up giving them the most disbelieving side eye in history because how do you NOT know this? But then, you know. Some people have the privilege of being able to be unaware it because it’s not a problem they have to deal with. (via lori-jaye)
Reblogged again for commentary
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Sounds like my friends when they were looking for a place in Midtown memphis(mostly white liberal middle class area)… they said people would invite them to see the places and then would either suddenly become unavailable or they would just ignore their phone calls.. but the Obama’s said “no more excuses.. work harder”…
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#i said this to my professor once in anthro #that black people are less likely to get a loan/mortgage and therefore have to rent #in poor neighborhoods for the rest of their lives #and that can affect whether or not their kids are able to go to college/realize their dreams #and he was like #’oh you can’t just blame society’ #and i just thought oh but yes i fucking can
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A black coworker once mentioned she was looking for a place to buy a home in the country. I suggested she look in the nearby county where I was then living, as it was nice and not terribly overpriced. She said thanks, but there was too much Klan activity in the area for her to feel comfortable. I had no idea. I’m white. I didn’t have to have any idea.
Some segregation barriers have different mechanisms than others.
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“Every guy thinks they’re different, that when they harass women in public it’s charming and witty and that you really changed a life, but no. She smiled and laughed long enough to make you go away.”
Exactly.
This text^ + punk isn’t about being an elitist prick dick wheeze
universalequalityisinevitable:
Robert Sapolsky about his study of the Keekorok baboon troop from National Geographic’s Stress: Portrait of a Killer.
Thiiiiiiis, people, thiiiis!
1. Kill alpha male types
2. Achieve world peaceGot it.
I’ve actually read a lot of Sapolsky’s work. He’s one of my favorite scientists in the neuro/socio world.
I just watched the documentary and there is so much more about the troop that isn’t in this photoset—not only does the troop have a culture of little aggression and greater cooperation, but any incoming jerk baboons learned within a few months that their shitty behaviour was in no way acceptable, that the troop only rewarded sociability, and they changed accordingly.

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So I watched this music video, and this is in fact completely untrue. There are many scenes in which black/brown girls are casted.
One could conceivably argue that any white star who features twerking in a music video is automatically being exploitative.
However, that was not my perception of this video in particular. It actually appeared to me the director took pains to portray a variety of dance styles (ballet, interpretive dance, rhythmic gymnastics, break dancing, twerking, cheerleading, etc.) all as equally valid art forms. Every performing group in the video includes a variety of ethnicities. I think I did actually see a black/brown dancer in the ballet troupe, though it’s difficult to tell. Look in the rear left of this gif:
We don’t know if they cast individual dancers or hired a dance troupe, so if black women are underrepresented that might say more about the dance troupe’s selection practices than the video director’s casting practices.
All the styles of dance, ballet or otherwise are presented in the same fashion — talented professionals being brilliant + Taylor Swift being endearingly incompetent. The black women in the video aren’t portrayed as Taylor’s dancing accessories, but rather as experts in their style:
Moreover, at the end of the video there’s a sequence showing all the different professionals being silly and dancing in a non-choreographed manner, thereby humanizing them, showing they exist outside of their role as dancers in Taylor’s video:
I think if we interpret the twerking scenes in this video as demeaning, that says more about our cultural perception of black women than it does about this particular video’s specific portrayal of black women.
THIS!
you know what, fuck it, I’m going to reblog this twice because I have a story to tell.
Almost two years ago I was approached by a man at a bar. He was very handsome— tall, with great cheek bones and the kind of eyes that crinkle at the corners with every smile. That man asked to buy me and my friends a drink.
Not wanting to give him the wrong idea, we turned him down. None of us were single, and we’d all had experiences where men have expected things from us after providing seemingly generous acts of charity.
That man spent the rest of the night harassing us. He followed us around the bar, dumped a beer over my friend’s head when she confronted him, made lewd comments about my ass when I walked passed to go to the bathroom. We tried to tell the bar staff what was happening, but with the room being so crowded, by the time we managed to locate the bouncer, he’d disappeared into a throng of people.
That man approached us when we were on our way to our car. He was verbally aggressive, throwing slurs at us and stepping into our personal space. When I pushed him away, he punched me in the face hard enough to knock me down. When my friend tried to call the police, he slammed her head into a wall.
We were lucky that after that, he panicked an ran away. It could have been much, much worse.
Bottom line? Fuck you if you think all women want is attention from attractive men. Fuck you for eternity.
Attention from an attractive man didn’t give me an ego boost. It gave me a fucking black eye.
Reasons to watch BotFA
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Thranduil riding on his elk
Thranduil helping the refugees
Thranduil saying ‘Mithrandir’
Thranduil’s grace, beauty, sass, and flowing hair
Thranduil pouring Bard just a bit of that strong Dorwinion wine because he cares about the mortal and doesn’t want to make him dizzy
Thranduil commanding his army with the smallest gestures
Thranduil clearly taking pleasure in being called ‘pretty’ by Dain
Thranduil fighting
Thranduil deciding not to let any more elven blood get spilled and withdrawing his troops from the battle because the sight of the ones killed breaks his heart
Thranduil getting angry and disarming Tauriel
Thranduil not knowing how to tell his son he loves him, but loving him enough to let him go
Thranduil comforting Tauriel despite everything
Thranduil, basically























